Wednesday, June 23, 2010

A Happy Time

When I first heard that Matty had cancer I was devastated. She was more pragmatic.

I have to die of something you know.

The first few weeks were completely unreal as we tried to absorb this dreadful news while waiting, with a mixture of awful dread and crazy hope, for the results of the tests. The first diagnosis was bowel cancer, the growth apparently in a ‘good place’, and her surgeon confident that it could be removed safely. Then came some other results which showed another separate cancer. This one was in her ovary and likely the one that had been giving her the pain and the swelling in her tummy. We were advised that treatment would do her far more harm than good.

The waiting had been tough and especially so for Dede and Trish who were with her during that time. Every day saw her get weaker and more nauseated and her belly grow bigger and the rest of her thinner. She could not eat without vomiting and the very smell or look of food made her sick.

Everyone came home. Not all at once but there was lots of comings and goings. She had to go into hospital so that the sickness could be dealt with and eventually it was.

She is at home now, able to eat again, if only little bits and pieces. She is delighted to be back in her own place and have everyone she cares about around her and helping to look after her. She said today,

This is a happy time for me.


Grannymar said...

I am so pleased that Matty is comfortable. Enjoy the special moments.

Ronni said...

I am glad she is home...wishing you all the best.

Anna said...

So sad to watch a loved one dwindle away...but so good, also, to share those last few times together and have the chance to say everything that needs to be said. Blessings on you all.

Anonymous said...

Hi all my Byrne cousins, my heart goes out to you all at this difficult time. Your mother is a very special person,and I love her dearly. She is fortunate to have you all relatively close by. Give her a gentle hug from Jim and me, and tell her she is never far from my thoughts. Peggy

Anonymous said...

Auntie Martha, an inspiration to us all.

therese said...

It breaks my heart to hear this. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Scooterdeb said...

Hugs to you and Matty and the rest of your family!